Sophia Hinton- Lever scrutinises the idea of a ‘new you’ this January
Firstly, I feel I should wish you all a Happy New Year! I’m currently writing this in the second day of my two day hangover, which I hope to god decides to evaporate soon as I have essays to write and a life to live.
I am assuming that most of you spent New Years Day as I did, swaddled in a blanket watching crap TV while having an existential crisis. Therefore, those New Year’s resolutions you may or may not have made where put on to the back burner for a day or two. During the second wave of my self-pitying state, as I was checking Facebook in a similar fashion to the way one would browse the morning paper, I noticed the large amount of buzzfeed type articles preaching about how to better yourself in the New Year littering my news feed. As I have just used the adjective preaching, you can probably surmise that I find them for the most part patronising and self-gratifying… but then, if anything is to be self-gratifying, would it not be the New Year’s resolution? They are designed to, with the aid of a fresh start, help us iron out those flaws we find within our own personalities – so who am I to argue against that fact that that can sometimes be a good, necessary idea?
However, from reading these articles I find that the some of the suggestions are ridiculous and clearly aimed at a very small demographic. Such as…
Ride the scariest roller coaster you can think of.
Can’t really see how that is going to improve my life apart from maybe giving me a sexy husky voice for a while from screaming.
Write someone a love letter.
… only if you actually have feelings for someone, I’m not sure whether finding true love is something you can schedule in for a specific year.
Treat your parents to dinner.
Fair enough you probably should do that, parents/guardians are always great.
Pick a European city to visit this year.
Do we all have the time/money to go soul searching to different countries… I don’t think so.
Invest in matching underwear.
‘Matching underwear’… I wonder what gender this Buzzfeed was aimed at.
Sing out loud whenever you feel like it.
Do not do this, as I have found out the hard way life is not a musical and it is not appropriate to sing while picking out what type of kale you want. People will think you are insane.
Why not, instead of reading hugely generalised articles giving vague suggestions that aim to make you braver or advise you to take specific risks in 2015, find out what you actually want to achieve this year. I do not think that anyone reading this article is such a horrific person that they would have to create an entirely new you to be happy or achieve great things this year. On the contrary, it is my belief that if you set yourself goals for the year such as, pass your degree or get a job that pays more that £6.50 per hour, (we can all pray), and go about accomplishing these things with grace and humility, you will improve yourself in ways you could not of planned through the journey.
The arrival of a new year does not call for a new you, the world loves the you of last year. Look at the bigger picture, larger aims. Rather than aiming to write a love letter to someone who you realise a year down the line you did not even like, try and think of something that will truly make you a happier person in the long run and set about achieving it.
I promise you it will bring you more joy than a two minute roller-coaster ride.